Being in love, rather than giving or taking love, is the only thing that provides stability. Being in love means seeing the Beloved all around me.
The greatest thing you can do for another being is to provide the unconditional love that comes from making contact with that place in them that is beyond conditions, which is just pure consciousness, pure essence. That is, once we acknowledge each other as existing, just being here, just being, then each of us is free to change optimally. If I can just love you because here we are, then you are free to grow as you need to grow.
Our rational minds can never understand what has happened, but our hearts.. if we can keep them open to God, will find their own intuitive way.